My affair with Honesty

Hey everyone... Hope life is rocking across the globe... I guess except my aussie frnds the whole world is merry....

Does there exist a place for bare facts and truth in today's Business world. Got tired of calling it the corporate world. Have we all lost the ability to hear criticism up front. I cant believe that the ego's of modern day educated employees become so large. Where are those guys who would face the music and give it back.

I have still not found someone who wants to hear the real feedback not the honey coated politically correct version. When I was growing up I would love the profs or teachers who would be brutally honest. Even if you had all straight A's, if you had given a shoddy performance you need to listen to it.

This has come to our personal lives, if we don't like someone we are not able to tell him/her to buzz off. In case relationships things go further south on pretense of not hurting anyone's feeling we wont say him or her to move on. Well i dont know would I be more comfortable if the girl I propose says " No I dont like you" or " I real value you as a frnd and I dont think.....". In theory I prefer the first one but in reality I dont know.

I guess all this things come from the deep need for being loved and accepted by everyone around us. Isnt that the most primal of instincts. I would be lying if I said I did not want that. But how much is normal or how much is taking it too far.

Any thoughts.....

Decade went by

Well it’s been a really longtime since I have shared anything with the world.....


But today I am writing something which is very close to my heart so I feel this will more than make up for my absence.


This October I celebrate 10 years of my first real crush for someone. Well I will try not to pry or divulge anything about anyone other than me. I respect everyone's privacy so hope the world takes it in the right spirit.


The year was 2000, had just completed my boards and was about to start pursuing every science students dream of getting into the HALOed IIT's. So I joined a co-ed tuition and for the first time, I was sitting in a classroom full of both the sexes. My initial classes went well made a few friends from the either gender. Then I met her, would you believe it was a Yashraj flick where both of us hated the sight of each other. And guess who the prof selected to bring her up to date ......me of course ( arre warna story kaise banti) so I lent her my note book and she vanished. I cursed her all night and decided to call her the following day. After an interrogation by her family and then an utmost surprise reaction by her she acknowledged that she had heard my name. Well didn’t I have some exciting plans to take my vengeance. But time passed and she became an enigma for me. All my friends had a crush on her and were ready to ask her out, she was dating someone they knew so that was weird. But the thing is however you may disagree, things that seem too weird are the ones that attract you like hell. But I guess for me it all boiled down to a fateful auto ride from my coaching center to a locality on her route. When I paid the fare for both of us, she said "why just because you are guy you need to foot the bill". I guess that had a deep impact on my mind.

In a few days my best buddy asked me a question that I hadn’t asked myself. On a rainy auto ride from school he asked me "Do you have a crush on her" ….. my instant answer was like no way. He said everyone believes so coz the way you look at her....


Well that’s the day I realized I had a crush on her.... First crushes are special... But acknowledging them is a taboo right... coz they have moved on and if you say you have a cherished memory then you become the obsessed stalker .... Well in my opinion if you have a fond memory of something then why not acknowledge it....

In my case she has full right to think I was obsessed with her coz it took me 2 years to move on and that’s weird to many, as the original bond didn’t even last a month... My fault that I couldn’t understand the depth of the feelings I had, moreover I had friends who encouraged me to keep those feelings alive... Well shouldn’t blame anyone at the end of the day the onus was on me to move on.... But I regret those calls or mails coz it wasn’t right... I don’t know whether you can be friends with someone who you had a crush on.... All I know given a chance I want to say sorry for the stress I caused and wish her well in life... Beyond that let fate take its course....

You may think with so much of social networking it would be easy for me to say that but in reality I think that it may come out even worse... It’s been a decade she may think I am surely obsessed but the truth is that if I have made the mistake I have to say sorry ... sometimes give or take a few years.... I will wait in case life presents an opportunity where we cross paths I would say at least one word and bid adieu…

Don’t know about the world so in case anyone wants to share his or her story please do....


Still if anyone feels it’s not right to reveal such things I am really sorry....

Salaam Class of 2010, IMT Ghaziabad

Ladies and Gentlemen you are about cross the threshold of opportunities.. but before you do that lets have a look at the glorious 2 years we have shared at IMT, Ghaziabad. The battle began much before you set foot on our beautiful campus, even before the day you bought IMT's form, even before you decided to give CAT... It began the day you told yourself I am made for doing bigger and better things... Congratulations to you all for winning that battle, now its time to win the war, as you set sail around the world, hope you vanquish all the demons ahead...

Well you can’t blame me for being nostalgic… it’s in the air. Let’s start then … the last 2 yrs at IMT have been much more than what I had imagined. After getting through to IMT the only thoughts that I had were whether the crowd will be really intellectual snobs or just snobs. Boy did I have the wrong idea.

I have met some gems at campus. You could say an eclectic collection of highly talented individuals each having a specialty of their own. Innumerable arguments later, I still feel I should have had few more, as each one left me more enriched than the other. I have had the opportunity to crib and bitch about all the things possible and wasn’t that fun.

Lemme take you through a few memorable incidents with my batch mates, I remember meeting this calm and confident guy sitting next to me on first class he confidently said that he is targeting a CGPA of 9. I thought screwed yaar what will I do with such ambitious fellows. Two years later my dear friend not only had the reputation of being part of the crème de la crème of the Marketing batch, he also landed one of the best jobs on campus. That’s what you admire dream high and achieve even higher. In the following weeks met people with amazing experiences those who had pay packages that would give you second thoughts before quitting but then they were here and they had no attitude because of it. Day 1 of Summer placements and people kept on messaging me facts about the company I was about to give the interview of, Guys that’s the camaraderie we had. Well being part of B2 was an experience of a life time… "a group of special people, who never competed with each other they just competed with the rest of the college", never brought any one of their classmates down during presentations. Most memorable moment would be Chakravyuh 2009 when everyone in the campus had one name on their mind Tapan Baba 24 Chor . I met some creative genius koi gane main rockstar to koi brilliant cartoonist aur koi itna creative ki poster ho ya tshirt he rocks it all….

We have our share of sharp shooters even if they kill on the server.. how could I pay a tribute to IMT without hailing our brilliant quizzers guys u ROCK!!!!!

Ask any B2 member and he or she would tell you we have had our share of characters… whether there was this gentleman whose vocab could only be understood by using a thesaurus and more so because when he was in full flow words just flew past us. The B2 symbol was my very sweet project mate he became answer to any question asked.. Then came, the manager who could just land up before the presentation started and give you an introduction which made you feel gosh can he hold fort…. How about our very own sweet lady CR, well I don’t think anyone could ever get angry on her…Waise aap logon ne ye sab to pehle padh hi liya ho ga… kyun kyun nahi padha….

Let’s talk about the gifted souls who taught us.

• The Mother of marketing said “Marketing makes selling superfluous”.
• Then came the man who said “Please revisit your organization and bring out some critical example”
• One creature in Technicolor said “Yes class why are you talking”
• The suave gentlemen made sure ki koi bhi unka ek bhi baal banka na kar sake
• Then came the “Woman” in man’s skin (Ladies I know you are not like him but didn’t have a better way to introduce this celeb) “ Aapki galati nahi aap ko to jinhone padhaya hai unhe bhi case solve karna nahi ata he he he” (he will shake his belly like bag full of jelly)

• Good things come in small packages “Worker kya karega wo to shaft ko mar mar ke fit kar dega “
• Who can forget the lady in boots she made the entire exam hall go "takar takar".
• The Economics man said “Friends will you study tomorrow (day before his exam) or not” more like pleaded.
• My most memorable achievement one find day I said “yaar is ka naam DRONA hona chahiye kyun ki ye samaya rok deta hai” and next thing u know everyones calling him that.
• Then we had the follower of the mahatama she took us to the field, made us watch muvis but could not teach us ethics.
• The finance guru who was hell bent to screw the tatas “bhai tu ne jaguar kyon li”
• Then I heard these special words “These F@#$ing A#@#$&* have no clues about business” and "these Bloody Bull shitters come out and say crap" this was used for the elite Indian entrepreneurs. Well this dude had the class mesmerized and I joined in the fan following in a few months.
• Who could forget our own little mayawati…..
• As far as I know Keller came and told her in her dreams how brands are made…Ya right!!!
• Well how can you forget this gentleman after the lady above… common yaar be serious…
• Then came the lady who was confused between whose your customer and consumer. “Sachein jyota wali maata teri saadayi jai”.. well my mates would know
• “Hey lady you are completely safe… I am only after these gande bois” didn’t this guy touch nearly half the men in my class. See the game beta or ye teri game baja dega.
• FCUK!!!!!!! hey remember our very own david dhavan… 100 ads bas 100 ads hain mere paas …
• Hyper sonic sounds were how we read the retail business….
• Then I met the ceiling staring mahashay who never looked down on us mere mortals.
• Ashoka hole ka password bina type kiya to apko IMT ka diploma nahi milskata hai Ji
• Arre baba koro na koro … nahi to shaar aajayenge
• Last but not least to a great human being, “Oho ab to jag jao ye sawal exam main ayega”.
• IMT main koi official khabar chaiye to Lalji se puchiye…

Someone asked Oho sir aap ppt kyun bhej te ho jab case study hi to aani hai paper main… sir said during exam “Oho kuch to likho baaki main dekh lunga”

Further there were many more characters, further if u refer to my previous slides you will knw them and in case you have any theoretical concepts you are most welcome to add them…

Before I sign off a special thanks to my juniors for a memorable farewell.. Guys and Gals you added much needed color to IMT… hope u keep it up…

My very best wishes to each and every one of you… may you achieve what your heart desires…

Till we meet again…..

Raise your voice

“The only thing constant is change”, well I did not say it someone far smarter than me did. Personally I have gone through a sea of change in the recent past. A sense of, shackles being broken.

My inspiration for this episode is SRK for he stood tall for the things he believed in.

I have always been a conformist, too weak to be the radicalist, have been a radicalist at heart but never in action. But now I believe no more can I rely on others to kick start an engine which I want to run. So the first thing a human being does to showcase his ideological change is change his or her physical appearance. Following similar path I also finally did something I wanted to do since last 8 year (changed my hair style and got my ear pierced).

By now you may feel that this is a page out of my daily diary well to start this topic I needed a longer introduction. Let us look at the will power within us to stand up. There are emotions that have been subconsciously urging us to raise our hand and ask the pertinent questions. “Why don’t we” – well all of us have fear in our heart could be parental pressure or peer pressure mostly we are not ready to face the consequences of our actions. What I feel is that when someone ridicules you it shows his or her insecurities. Typically people who have high deficiency in their personal attributes choose to ridicule others. It’s a primal instinct all animals exhibit it. The weaker animal tries to show excess aggression against a formidable opponent in effort to strike fear in their heart. Such people in our society who ridicule others are actually afraid that if they don’t others would ridicule them.

Learning is that once you are ready to follow your heart you are going to face quite a few challenges but the end result will be far more rewarding. Then what stops us is another set of primal instincts “Respect & Fear”. “Respect” for the people we love. “Fear” that how will it affect the various relationships that we share. But we need to understand that it’s your life today if you don’t do what you want to you will never feel content. Tomorrow you will blame those very people and at the end of the day sour your relationship. Stand up to your opinions and beliefs make the world notice you.

Believe me it’s hard to shed an image that is as old as you are but then if you are ready to take few blows it’s not impossible. I think many of you might have done similar things in life or are planning to so share your views