Friday, October 2, 2015

Digital education in India: Promised to the masses delivered to the classes


Before I start, I would like to clarify even after almost 5 years I am very much a newbie in the digital education space in India. I am lucky to have met and discussed various aspects of digital learning with the distinguished members of this field. 

Over the last few years we have seen more photo opportunities, PR snippets and social media headlines related to digital education than any other facet of education but sadly has the world changed around us, not by much. All amazing projects and solutions are being deployed in the best of the best private schools where there is neither a constraint in budgets or lack of infrastructure. The promise that digital education brought to a country like India was ensuring where ever you are you will get access to quality content designed and delivered in an effective and efficient manner. Sadly this hasn’t become a reality. We got bitten by the tablet bug and that ensured we were investing time and money on the incorrect devices for the masses. The device itself has seen a slow death because of multiple issues like form factor, durability and serviceability.

There have been incredible projects using currently available resources and technology to enhance the classroom experience. Sadly they don’t end up in headlines. Neither do such entrepreneurs are invited to think tanks or panel discussion. Well because most of them are not elite they are people who saw a problem and decide to tackle it with whatever they could. Digital learning in India is also a fad driven business. Now we are currently madly in love with the following: apps, gamification, mobiles and videos.

The key stakeholders in the process are government, private players and teachers. My analysis of each:

Our government has invested in projects that were half baked and uncalculated whether it is the famous indigenous low-cost tablet project or the one laptop per child adventure.  We have conveniently ignored the teachers and their digital literacy, as that is not. We have commissioned hardware purchases with maintenance and service systems. If you ask a public representative how do you measure that a school has access to digital education he will recite the number of computers in the computer lab. Do they work? What happens when then need repair? Who is ensuring relevant softwares are installed? Is there connection to internet? Everybody is busy announcing schemes one after the other and cutting ribbons. There aren’t any efficacy studies being done. There is enough evidence in the market that bringing computers into the school does not necessarily improve learning outcomes. It is high time we need to train our teachers on how to leverage technology to deliver engaging and effective classrooms.

Why just blame the government. The private sector has had some shining examples but those are the ones you would not have heard of. The ones that are talked about are catering to the elite. They are dealing with immersive learning, 3D printing, virtual reality and more. But is this the need of the hour from people who can impact policy decisions. We are either offering our learners out dated content or content that is not fit for their level. We are creating solutions for tomorrow’s infrastructure rather than for now what we have today. We also are behaving like teleco companies that India has 4G when in all honestly take walk around Cannaught Place inner circle you won’t get edge (E) on your network. We need to build solutions for today and look at building it up.

Another key stakeholder in the entire process is teachers. In my experience most senior stakeholders in the digital learning space started with one agenda eliminate the teacher. Make learning independent of the teacher, turn the teacher into a facilitator and ensure anybody can teach. Create step by step instruction guides which help them press the next button on the laptop after a designated time. Did that work? We all know it didn’t.  Currently there are number of projects going on across the world where technology is enabling flipped classrooms, expert advice and classroom management. The one main concern is effective and efficient utilisation of the teacher’s time. How much of their time goes into non-teaching admin work and how can we reduce it. In a country like ours we love examinations, more examinations means more paper work to handle. How are we exploiting technology to do that? Is there are large enough research done specifically in India to identify what are the needs and pain points?

So I have had my rant, what should be the right approach? Should we stop experimenting in the high end segment? I am of the firm belief that the government’s focus should lie on the grass roots while private sector can aim at solving niche problems. Any contracts awarded to the private sector in digital learning space needs to have maintenance, upgrade and service guarantee. Payments should be linked to SLAs and service quality. All any content should be multi-level within a grade so that the teacher can select based on her/his class performance. Standard modules for digital literacy should be a part of all in-service training. Non-teaching effort needs to be minimised. Schools need school management mechanisms immediately so that you can free up teacher time.

What is the ideal content, learning design and pedagogy? I am no expert but over the last 5 odd years I have spent enough time with product managers, CXOs, teachers and learners to realise they are not on the same page. For a learner in a village where there is no internet and unstable power an IVR based product is the best digital solution in the world. For a learner in a low bandwidth area a video based product is a more painful experience than anything else. Is an app answer to all problems in the world well yes and no. Yes by sheer numbers you got to have an app if you want to tap the market. But then what do you do with the app is important. You need to understand that an app will only provide supplementary or just in time learning.  
What is the best device? How should the content be available? I am a firm believer that you need a PC version and a phone version. I know all studies say that the PC is dying but we need to be aware of the fact that education will be laggard in throwing out PCs. Secondly for the phone I would say build multi-platform and have a wap mode in place. I do believe that everything does not need a video if you want a monologue with zero body language inputs build a good audio. Yes Steve Jobs was right make it simple and have as few as possible active buttons. Spend time on UI/UX and colour schemes.

Should we gamify the whole world? Should learning apps be like candy crush? Are MOOCS over? Well this is where we get into interesting territory.  Social or peer networks have ensured apps go viral. Apps like Quizup have ensured there is a huge stickability factor. But I look at it in a different perspective. Let the user choose the bites they want to take. Add social networking and gamification but don’t rely on them, content and design are still the key. MOOCs have been around in areas related to science and technology and management for quite some time.  I think they have a role to play and they do provide much needed structured free content. As one of the struggles that new digital learners face is how to create a learning path. MOOCs help sort out those issue. They also add the social and community bit to it. Again I am not worried if everybody doesn’t finish my MOOC. All I want to know is that is there learning impact. Did the user gain knowledge/skill? If that is happening then we are good. I am a firm believer in a very short while content will be available for free in reasonably good learning design packages whether it is an app, MOOC or flash drive.

So is there no money to be made in digital learning in India? This is the single largest non-infrastructure opportunity in Indian education sector. But because we have had so many bad attempts that the influencers are sceptical. So little has been done in terms of efficacy and research that whatever claims are being made they all sound like product pitches. Students are spending incredible amounts of money on poorly designed and irrelevant products whether it is print, digital or private tuitions. None of these have the ability track development or assess areas of improvement. So all you need is to be able to back your sales pitches by black and white data.

On a personal note: It is time we built products for learners that have access to minimal technology and change lives. We deliver across the value chain and not just the creamy layer. Also we need to price it right. We need to ensure it is affordable for the masses. As a digital company basic content should be free and specialised charged. Also certifications should be paid for but “how to” needs to be available for free. We build a CPD portal for all teachers across the country which is available for free and they can pay for certifications.

The views are my own. I would appreciate contradicting views and arguments. I have intentionally avoided using brand names. I will keep sharing relevant articles.

Saturday, August 1, 2015

Flavors of Kolkata

Well my first food blog…. All my colleagues and friends have been harassed by my unwanted critical appreciation of food… Have got my share of looks on ssshhh let us eat…. But some people have benefited from my gyan….

Lets kick it off with my janam bhoomi Calcutta… I am proud to be born in the cauldron of food and culture… If we folk (purists just take hike, I can be called a bong for all purposes) get a chance then food and banter will be our mission… I have very limited knowledge of the wide range of non-veg delicacies that Bengal has to offer therefore sorry to disappoint my carnivorous friends… I will add links of places where you should go….

Just to add this is not a exhaustive list nor am I a bengali by blood or a chef so "kono bhool hole khoma korben"

Let me try and do a count down … in the order I carve for it…. I have hyperlined the recipe or more details for each one of these...

1. Churrmurr: If you haven’t had it… I pity you …. Crushed puchka/golgappa/paanipuri…
mixed with aloo (potatoes), kabuli chana (Mattar), bhuna hua masala (roasted and ground spices), Imli ka paani (tamarind water) , loads of green chillies and a dash of Gandharaj (a variety of lime)


         Where to have it: Most local Puchka walas do a decent job… Special mentions Victoria                                                   memorial, Vardan market many many more….

2. Puchka: If you have had it while it was being referred by any other name… Well you have to have this to flavor the difference… Made of Atta (wheat flour)… loads of mashed potatoes… again bhuna masala…  and the divine elixir of tamarind, spices, chillies and lime…. Again loads and loads of options keep trying the flavours slightly change between  north and south Kolkata


3. Kheerkadam: From spicy to sweet… you need to try these kheer (milk solids)  coated a bit hardened rasgullas… they are dry and are available mostly in all Bengali sweet shops…. 


4. Rasgullas: Well you cant just not have this in the top 5….  Well there are a few cousins of Rasgulla that you should also try… Kamla bhog which is a bigger version with orange/lemon essence…. Raj bhog which is the king size version with a core filled with goodies…. And you also have the chocogullas… IF you are in Bengal in winters then definitely try the Gur (jaggery)  rasgullas they are simply divine…

              Where to have it: First priority KC Das,  if you are around Park Circus then Mithai ke 
                                                     fresh rasgulla is awesome…

5. Egg roll: Well if you haven’t had them in east India then you haven’t had them at all… Nice 
meaty parathas of maida (refined flour) … generous coating off egg…. And the divine core of onions, sauces, and your choice of meat or aloo and lemon juice…. 

         Where to have it: I would definitely recommend Kusum on Park Street, Zeeshan at                                                           Park Circus

Now the race is over so lets have fun… Something that is an integral part of my Kolkata experience:

6. Fruit cake from Nahoum’s: You have to taste this yum rum soaked fruit cake. Nahoum’s is located in the heritage side of New Market and they have loads of goodies from eclectic cookies/biscuits to yummy savories. 


7. Chana jor garam: Something’s have a symbolic value than just food. The bhaiyas dressed in white with their Nehru topi selling chana jor garam. It’s a legacy that has its own charm. 


8. Sandesh: I am clubbing around 100+ delicacies when I say Sandesh. From the traditional to the modern we have it all. From baked, steamed, liquid filled, soft and dry you name it we have it. Well just to mention a few must haves Kacha golla (extremely soft, simple flavor and fresh), Koda pak (this one lasts decent duration of time is dryer than the usual sandesh), Gurer sandesh (Jaggery sandesh – seasonal), Ice cream sandesh ( developed over the last few decades its simply yum), Deem sandesh (Well because I luv it .. looks like an egg and is just adorable), Jal bhara (filled with liquid jaggery – very rare and awesome), golab sandesh (rose sandesh), Chocolate sandesh and countless more

        Where to have it: 
                                     i. Balaram, Park Street (Must have Jal bhara)
                                     ii. Bancharam, Gariahat 
                                     iii. Junior brothers, Opposite Basanti devi college 
                                     iv. Nepal Chandra
                                     v. KC Das
                                     vi. Mithai
                                     vii. Gupta brothers
                                     viii. Finally even the nearest one won’t be that bad

9. Aloo dum: Well you need to have this to understand why we love aloos. Well Aloo dum at home and at the road side vendor is not the same.  So basically small medium whole boiled potatoes covered in a nice spicy masala coating.
                        Where to have: Just one recommendation outside Dakhinapan Market, Near 

10. Aloo chop/Beguni/Deem chop: Well all are available at the same place and every bit divine. You get them at these small shops or the large sweet shops they are fried goodies and depending on the core can range from potato, eggplant or eggs.


11. Ghugni: This is matter boiled and cooked in whole spices.  When served they added onions, 
chillies and tamarind water. Topped with crush puchkas and masala.


12. Narkel naru: Imagine freshly scrapped coconuts slow cooked in jaggery.  This little gem was a household treat and now due to urbanisation it is available in the market.

13. Moa: The white ladoos are just mouth watering. They are worth waiting for. Available only during the winters. Joy Nagar is famous for these.

14. Mihi dana: Very fine boondi. It is just divine you are bound to fall in luv. Also available now in 
baked variants.

15. Radhaballabhi: These are thick puris stuffed with daal. Served with aloo ki sabji with a distict 
masala. Available at Bengali sweet shops these are a must have if you are a kachori/puri fan.

16. Shor bhaja: The king of calories this is literally cream of milk fried and soaked in sugar syrup. 
Before we all went round (well me at least) these were worth biting into.

17. Langcha: Well these are just enticing if you love the high sugar content. They have a subtle 
floral essence. Shaktigarh is the place world famous for lancha.

18. Kala Jam: This is the Bengali cousin of gulab jamun. Imagine a gulab jamun deep fried with 
resulting in a thick outer layer.

19. Loochi ar cholar dal: Loochi is a poori ki cousin made of refined flour. Chane ki dal and loochi makes a tempting combo.
20. Chanar payesh: Yummy small rasgullas in milk and sugar base. You just can’t stop having 
these. 

21. Pitha: Comes in multiple varieties. Available around the Bengali new year i.e. in and around 15 April. They come in interesting fillings: jaggery, coconut, dry fruits. Now some upmarket stores have started selling them. Again something that has moved out from family kitchens to the market place.

22. Kasundi: Bengali mustard. Believe once you try this your entire mouth, nose and ears will 
feel the impact. No matter how many international brands you might have had this is truly special.

23. Vegetable Chop: Take a bite and you might feel the cook is a vampire. Its red from inside due 
to the generous quantity of beet root and its coated with bread crums and fried. Again a 
Kolkata stall wart.

24. Jhal Mudi: Till you have had puffed rice mixed with tomoatoes, onions, coconut, chilli, 
peanuts, lemon/tamarind water and a healthy quantity of raw mustard oil – you haven’t complete the Kolkata food journey.

25. Misti Doi: How can you not finish off with this. The original pallet cleanser. The most divine 
experience for your taste buds where you get to taste the earthen pot which was used to set it.

For my non-vegetarian readers and fish lovers please find below some to rated restaurants of Kolkata

www.bhojohorimanna.com/restaurant-info/locations/index.html

https://www.zomato.com/kolkata/sholoana-bangali-prince-anwar-shah-road

http://goindia.about.com/od/wheretoeatdrink/tp/Top-5-Bengali-Restaurants-In-Kolkata.htm

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Next Google or Apple in India: Really?


Disclaimer: Views are my own and does not reflect on a particular individual or organisation

I am still a newbie in the corporate space, well I have just spent half decade post my MBA (not from the double ”I”s). So I am not an expert by a long shot. 

But over the last 5 years I have attended my fair share of – Company communication meetings, All India leadership meetings, Strategic workshops, you name it I have attended it including meetings with the Board of Directors. How many times have I heard we want to be or aspire to be  “Google” or/and “Apple – well if I was paid a rupee every time I heard this I would have bought an Apple Iphone 6 or a Nexus 6. As they say in hindi “chalo choddo” (let it be). As a young MBA, I was inspired and encouraged when I heard it for the first few times. Today after 5 years, I smile when the next CXO, Country lead, Business lead, Director tells me that they want to be the next Apple or Google.

Let me clarify my opinion on Apple and Google.
Steve Jobs built the world’s most valued brand, Bill Gates created a tool that has powered the world’s economic growth and Larry Page built a tool that has become a ubiquitous part of our lives.

So I thought let me look at the future, say 10 years down the line, if I had to tell my stakeholders that "we want to be “Apple” or “Google”" what should I do to ensure they don’t smile as I do today. Are these brands built on individuals? Are these icons the only power core that these organisations have? The answer is both yes and no. Yes, these incredibly talented individuals were the tipping point. But the phenomenon that these brands are today is because of what values, process and systems they have put in place. Not only have they built those processes they have ensured implementation. Does that mean these icons are Gods and these organisations are heavenly? No, they have their share of flaws. Employees, Partners and Customers Service have been integral part of their strategies.

Employees: If you count the hours a knowledge worker will spend at his or her desk then you will only get standardise output where the deviation will be in an acceptable range. All these brands were built on innovation – the next big idea. Did every innovative product make a billion dollars? Nope. Did they stop because they failed a few times? Did they hide those stories and fire those people – I am sure they did it once in a while. But they shared their experience and celebrated valiant attempts. When most senior leaders shout about innovation in India there is a high probability that their HR manuals talk about hours, days of working, non-flexible working and multiple penalty clauses. You want innovation build a culture that supports innovation. You want 8 hrs then forget innovation. How many times have you been to an organisation wide meeting and we have discussed failures in a positive way, how many individuals in your extended network have received recognition for hard work in a failed attempt and how many leaders are ready to accept that the decisions they took were incorrect? As leaders you need to trust the people you hire or fire them. If you do not trust the abilities of your own team you are destined for failure. The team will be demotivated and the end outcome will be no value addition for the organisation and the customer. Let people feel that they can make mistakes and not be penalised for everything. Does that mean you have no rules or no systems – certainly not, you need to customise these based on the required output.

Partners: If you want to grow you need to take your partners along. If you want to deliver quality you need to distribute profits fairly. This is something that is non-existent in India. There are very few stories like Sona steering and Maruti, Tata’s and their suppliers.  We work with partners where we need support - knowledge, reach, resources, etc. Do we always trust our partners? How many times have partnerships been treated as transactions? Time and again you will read these haloed brands failing because they did not have the right partners/suppliers. Do we have a partner management, engagement and enhancement strategy in place? Is knowledge and information shared? In my experience we do these in our high level meetings write 20 page strategy docs and when the relationship manager comes up with an initiative we say buzz off. We need to translate these words into action. We all have brand champions we need partner champions.

Customer Service: An alien concept in our market place. Such a beautiful coincidence once while travelling through rural north India I heard someone pronounce customer as “Kasthamar” so I extended it in India if you are a customer you are supposed to Kasth kar ke mar (put all your efforts in vain). We sell a few million smart phones a month and we have dysfunctional service centres. Once we get the cheque we have no time for you. Dear leaders if your team is servicing a customer that has no repeat business planned in the current fiscal don’t shout at them, encourage them. The service quality of these aspiring brands is not even close to their icons. Again we create a spread sheet calculate utilization and average call time – not percentage resolution or experience. It’s about how do we utilise the least paid employee in a setup and nothing else. If I can’t service the individual or organisation that has already paid then what am I going to do for other stakeholders? 

My brand bestest is the new disease in the market. In 90% of my meetings I hear self-declared brand value.  Your brand is worth nothing if the person sitting opposite to you does not care for it. Brands that matter don’t talk about their power or value – other people do. Let the world say it out loud you are a great brand because you treat your people well, you value your partners and the you take very good care of your customers.

I am sure some of these things creep in due to systemic pressures. But that does not mean everything that I have talked about is only possible in the Utopia scenario. Some of these can be implemented from Monday morning all it needs is one committed leader and one supportive follower.

Let’s get REAL. If we run like a poultry farm we will only produce eggs.

Sunday, September 7, 2014

My top 10 books

Selecting 10 books that had an impact on my life is almost like writing a mini autobiography :).. Well I am not going to rank them in order... Shortlisting was a difficult task.. here goes...

 As the Crow Flies (novel) changed my life. This book talked about nuances of being a marketer and retailer. I just got hooked so an engineer at heart converted to a marketer by profession!! Salute to my all time favorite author Jeffrey Archer

Harry Potter all seven books are such integral part of my life that. Thanks J.K. Rowling for creating this magical world.

Great Expectations was part of my syllabus. The most vivid characters. I owe my reading habbit to this novel. Specially the scene when Miss Havisham introduced. Charles Dickens thanks to you I started reading.

James Bond books no explanations required :). Ian Fleming created the most iconic character of 20th century.

Sherlock Holmes the most memorable fictional character ever. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle set a benchmark for authors. And yes I think Sherlock Holmes - Jeremy Brett was better than your whatsapping youngling...

Jwalamukhi ke phool was the first I read about Chanakya not just as a historical figure.

Empire of the Moghul series by @Alex Rutherford. If you like historical fiction this is a must read.

Mister Meddle's Muddles was the first book I borrowed from my school library Hartley's High School. Complete laugh riot and some really funky ideas to mess around. #respect Enid Blyton Club

Millennium series (Millénium) its sad that Steig Larsson didn't get to see how the world loved and adored his work.

Marketing Warfare by Al Riesand Jack Trout is a must read.

I feel this list has some very notable omissions. A few names that are at par India's Biggest Cover-up, #Tempest, #TippingPoint, Hercule Poirot and...

This has been a very nostalgic experience. I can almost feel the covers of each and everyone of these and how and from where did I manage to get them...

If you love books and if the fragrance of a new book or an old leather bound edition give you a high go ahead and do this... you will love it

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Benares 2013 - 5000 years and counting

I have been to this "holi" city number of times...  but this visit had its own place... has the city finally become a tourist destination...  I am sure you are already thinking of closing the webpage...  hold on....  I meant has the city accepted the way shown by Goa or Jaipur.....  

Are the gallis more welcoming....  are the people getting warmer...  gone are the benarasi thag stories...  I window shopped for hours....  decent rates... no tricks...  no smirks when you say tats expensive....
Had a pleasant stay at a affordable affable hotel...  Close to Shiva's abode...  multiple darshans and Maa was happy....  loved the boat ride on ganga...  if you love time and the impact it has on humanity...  come to benares....  time stood still in the by lanes of this town...  said to be the oldest inhabited town....  sure there are malls coming up but the spiked hair gym toned gym still goes to the temple... he cleans the vermillion tika...  I understand coz that doesn't go with his body fit tee-shirt and low rise jeans...  specially his eyebrow piercing and the dragon tattoo...

I still believe the benarasi in him lives on...  I won't ask him to change a tad bit....  I don't know about you...  I believe in adapting to times...  if we kept the core constant...  much like our beautiful planet...
I was amused by the exotic lingerie available on the road that lead to Shiva.... I would love to know the connect...  there were more mannequins wearing fishnet stalkings... thongs than benarasi Saree's :D.....
Oh I could shop in benares for a few weeks and still feel yeh dil maange more....
To all foodies...  must visit place...  eat till you drop...  a few recommendations
*choti kachauri and sabji (breakfast)
*jalebi
*kheer mohun
*lal peda
*chats
*golgappe
*sandwich(sweet dish)
And paan(loads)

Now I am sure there are a million more...  I am mentioning my must haves...

I believe religion is something that's private...  but need to share some views...  can't keep religion and benares separate... can you... India to me is confluence of faith and belief...
I landed in benares a day after dussera... Maa Durga had just left us with the promise that she will be back next year with if not more equal gutso....  and the city had turned white for eid... young bois and men dressed in sharp Kurtas and lungis/pyjama/salwar... how soon and smoothly red became white...  I couldn't feel a difference...  in the evening I saw Maa ganga ki arti attented by Hindus Muslim's christian Jew's budhists... many more faiths I am sure...  there was a calm..  a calm tat was echoed by the river...  the flow is strong but calm... 
To this all I can say is that's my India.. it's not red white green saffron.... it's unique...  it changes hues for its people... as we select leaders our leaders we ensure he or she has no one color....
Got a bit serious right....
Let's change the mood..  on the ghats of ganga you will see countless international tourists...  I am going to be honest I was eaves dropping this particularly colorful chat between two American female students and a young benarasi Babu ( did I mention he was no more than 11 years old)... he looks at them and says your beautiful...  why didn't your boyfriend come with you...  don't you have one... when they said they do he looked absolutely disgusted that how could they have left their beautiful girlfriends alone.... 
Ah the legacy of Indian cinema... or western...  hum sirf jodon main achhe lagte hain :)

Thursday, September 12, 2013

JOBification of Entrepreneurs

I have wanted to write this for the last 2 years... I am actually quiet surprised that most entrepreneurs I have worked with have become so enamoured by the Jobs effect. Nobody has spent time to ponder and realise well could it me that this man was a genius...

Look at what has happened to the product line after him... but ?I would not adopt his gut feel no market research policy regarding product design... You talk to entrepreneurs and they are convinced that, that's the way forward.... If they feel that the customer will love this then that's it... I find it really odd...

I have ended up having long and painful arguments and they have ended with the leaders saying do this because I say so.... And the rationale is that's how he did it... Are kidding me do you think all of us are Jobs pedigree....

One example stands out... Will the customer move from toll-free to missed call method... To the alien soul
Toll-free: is when the user calls and its free for them. The company will pay for the call charges
Missed call (Call back):  is the customer calls and the system disconnects the call and then calls you back.
The cost of 1 min toll-free is almost if not more than 3 times Missed call.

During one of such entrepreneurial discussions.. I was told are you crazy you plan to change the consumer behavior it will never happen... Yesterday when I saw a full pager on TOI cover by Future group saying please give a miss call on this number... I had a huge smile... Products are made on the ground not in air-conditioned meeting rooms.... Not by 5 VPs/CEOs/COOs but by people who actually spend time with the user... Products dont change directions every meeting they need to be tested on the ground... proper feedback to be done and upgrades to be made... Launching a product every year hasn't worked for marquee organizations ... Launch a product when you have something more to offer...

"Dont underestimate what the consumer can do where they see real benefit"

So all we need to do is create great products and communicate the benefit they bring to tehe table :)

There are success stories where no one man can stake claim... Let no Jobify ourselves... Get inspired from a great entrepreneur !!!

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Looking down the Barrel


27 about to turn a year older, have been perpetually single”. Sounds like the most inviting tag line for every one you know to suggest girls they know for marriage. Is getting married really necessary? Having the ideal family match is more important than the ppl involved? Do people really tell the truth when they meet someone through a matrimonial ad? Do our parents know what we really are? ,Specially folks who have lived away from home for nearly a decade. 

I have a million such questions and no answers. As I look at myself and try to bump across the coming few months where the severity of these issues will quadruple I don’t know what the outcome will be. All I want is to meet someone without the eventual idea of marriage. And the reply to this is you should have found a gf. Well for some people its really easy to make frnds but really hard to go the extra mile. My only real relationship was when I was 17 and hardly lasted for a few months. Post I have met some amazing friends but none more than that. Am to be blamed I guess to an extent. If I was so afraid of an arranged marriage I should have went out on a limb to “find love”.

Dating in India is interesting there is nothing casual about it. You just cant ask that nice girl out for a coffee and then take things forward. In the last few months most of my friends have taken the plunge which accelerates the issue. The statistics are out there to see. What is visible is that marriage is an integral part of life in India not only for the kids but for parents too. The entire social fabric does not support the idea of being a bachelor and waiting till eternity for that perfect match. It’s all about the age and the cutoff limits.

If the social fabric is like this it has to be upon us to create avenues where sane people who are single and feel that they would like to more about a person they wanna spend the rest of their life with rather than just a SMS meet. Do I want a dating portal for single nearing 30 I guess I do…….